Attachment-focused therapy looks at how your early relationships shaped the way you show up today – with partners, friends, family, and even at work. Instead of only managing surface-level symptoms, we slow down, get curious about the “why” underneath your reactions, and work toward building a more secure, grounded way of relating to yourself and others.
What is Attachment Theory
Attachment theory helps explain why some people crave closeness, others pull away, and many feel stuck somewhere in between. It describes the emotional “blueprint” we formed in childhood based on how safe, seen, and supported we felt with our caregivers.
Over time, this blueprint becomes the lens through which we interpret the world:
• Am I lovable?
• Are other people safe and reliable?
• What happens if I need something?
• Is it safer to stay independent, invisible, or in control?
How Attachment Shows Up in Adult Life
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Feeling “too much” or “not enough” in relationships
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Shutting down, numbing out, or pulling away when someone gets close
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Feeling clingy, anxious, or on edge if someone takes too long to reply
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Struggling to ask for help or show your real emotions
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Overthinking everything and scanning for rejection or abandonment
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Losing yourself in relationships, or staying hyper-independent and alone.
Who This Work
Is For
• Have a history of relational or developmental trauma
• Identify with avoidant, anxious, or fearful-avoidant (disorganized) attachment patterns
• Feel emotionally lonely, even if you’re surrounded by people
• Want to stop repeating the same relationship dynamics over and over
• Are in a relationship and want to understand both of your attachment styles and how they interact
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this just for romantic relationships?
No. We can absolutely focus on romantic relationships, but attachment patterns also show up in friendships, family dynamics, work environments, and your relationship with yourself.
How long does attachment-focused therapy take?
That depends on your goals, history, and what you’re hoping to change. Some people come for a few months to get clarity and tools; others stay longer to do deeper, root-level work. We’ll check in regularly about your progress and adjust together.
Do I need to know my attachment style before starting
Not at all. If you already have a sense of your style, we can build on that. If not, we’ll explore it together in session.
Can my partner and I work with you if we live in different provinces?
Yes, as long as at least one of you resides in a province where I’m registered (Quebec, Ontario, or Alberta), and we’re following the appropriate guidelines for service delivery. We can discuss this in your consultation.
Ready to Start?
If you recognize yourself in any of this, you’re not “too damaged,” “too needy,” or “too distant.” You’re someone whose nervous system learned to survive the best way it could. Attachment-based therapy gives you space to understand those patterns and slowly build something different – more secure, more connected, and more true to who you are. You don’t have to untangle it alone.